Swimming In My Head…

diving in the deep end…

Good weekend

This was one of those great weekends where the weather was perfect, the food was comforting (and therefore tasted good), and the friends were fun.  It was also a reflective weekend for me.  One where I realized that although I’m guarded, the people that I’ve let into my life are phenomenal and this is what I learned from them this weekend:

First, you have to wade through a sea of people to get to the people you will call your close friends.  The ones who you know would be there for you no matter what.  The ones you know you can disagree with, but still like them the next day.  The ones you know that you would take a bullet for.  And when you find them, keep them.

Keeping them can be difficult when they’re matched with someone that you don’t warm up to, or that you don’t think is good enough for them, but being a friend means being supportive throughout and if there’s fallout, being there to pick them up and dust them off and move on.

Second, I learned that of your good friends, there will be some that you don’t see for months at a time, but when you do, it’s like you didn’t miss a day.  Spending time with them is like going on one of those fantastic vacations where you come back refreshed and you’re already calculating the next visit in your head…even if it’s months away.  So lucky to have them.

My partner helped and continues to help me appreciate that different friends bring different things to your life, so understanding that means that the one ‘utopian’ “friend” that we’re all searching for, doesn’t exist.  It’s the collaboration of several different perspectives and qualities that fills that need to feel like we belong, or better yet – that we have people.

I realized that I have friends that I connect with on extremely different levels.  For example, one of my closest and dearest friends and I have this strange, almost extrasensory ability to communicate certain things without saying a word – but we understand each other.  It’s like an ability to read between the lines.  This person has such a big heart and sometimes gets that heart broken in undeserved ways.  There are people that don’t necessarily appreciate them for the person that they are, but when they have the chance to step back and look at things objectively, I’m sure that they’ll realize exactly what I realized – you have to wade through a sea of people to get to the few that will be close to you, worthy of you, or worthy of your time.

All in all, a great weekend and worth every minute.

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November 10, 2008 - Posted by | Life In General |

3 Comments »

  1. WOW!! Okay you seriously made me cry with this. You are soooooo on the money and yes..you DO have to wade through a sea of the wrong people to find the Right ones. I feel so lucky myself to have two people (Both from Philly,…lol) Who I have the esteemed pleasure of calling.. Friends.. if not family.

    Thank you both..

    xoxo,

    D&G

    Comment by Dana | November 10, 2008

  2. That should be published. My heart literally felt like it took a sigh of contentment. I’m glad you are able to have friends like that and a supportive partner that helps you see the good in you as well as others. Love you both.

    BTW -I’m counting myself as one of your friends ; )

    Comment by Al | November 12, 2008

  3. Al – Thank you so much! You are definitely counted as one of our friends…irreplaceable. Love you too!

    Comment by deek1973 | November 12, 2008


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